I am up against several narcissists from several directions. I got the book by Joe Navarro after finding the excellent article he did for Psychology Today about narcissist and psychopath differences. The title of the book is “Dangerous Personalities.” I have only read through the narcissist part so far. It has been very validating.
On page 30 Mr. Navarro states, “Many of us have been taught to ‘forgive and forget’, especially with family and friends. The narcissist personality is counting on you to do that.” I wrote about this in a different article. The truth is that these dangerous personalities are not above turning your own good intentions and good beliefs into a weapon against you. I know they have done it to me many times over. When I don’t follow my own Christian beliefs they attack me. These satanists attack me and try to force me to forgive and forget so they can take advantage of me and set me up for another fall. When I quit forgiving and forgetting they came unglued. They are still fuming about it and trying to tell me I am not a Christian. I believe God gave us good sense and it would be a sin for me to continually give in to these monsters and enable them to hurt me. That is not Christian. If they really want forgiveness, then they can ask God for it like the rest of us. And I am never going to forget all the trauma they have put me through, even if I wanted to, thanks to the PTSD they made sure I got.
This book has a very interesting checklist for people to use who are regular people. These IdIoTTwins scored on almost every single item on the list. They aren’t just narcissists, they are the cult-leader-type ego maniacs.
Here are some of the things I know about the IdIoTTwins that match the 130 item list from the book:
2. Has a grandiose idea of who he is and what he can achieve.
5. Requires excessive admiration from others.
6. Has a sense of entitlement, expecting to be treated as someone special or given priority at all times.
8. Lacks empathy and is unable to recognize the needs or suffering of others.
10. Is arrogant and haughty in behavior or attitude.
12. Has an exaggerated sense of privilege that allows him to bend rules and break laws.
18. Has devalued others as being inferior, incapable, or not worthy. (Specifically complained bitterly to me about Koreans, Mexicans, Black people, Catholics, priests. Those IdIoTTwins are bigots.)
19. Has demonstrated little sympathy or empathy for others; nevertheless, expects others to show him empathy (They make fun of people with real disabilities and mental health problems, but whine incessantly that they are continually mistreated and I could not comfort them enough to ever shut up.)
22. Is considered to be or acts like a bully.
23. Talks at you rather than to you.
24. Needs to be the center of attention and does things to distract others to ensure being noticed (e.g., arriving late, wearing eye-catching clothing, using dramatic language, or making theatrical entrances). (I have personally had to deal with them bragging about being like wrestling heroes, movie stars, rock stars. They also use the gang stalking to put on continuous theatrics, and they constantly harass in one way or another. I am convinced it is to be the center of attention. I am literally a captive audience.)
29. Has a need to control others and demands total loyalty at all times. (One told me through James that I was to agree with him at all times. He said that is what a wife’s duties are. James and I had been married over 20 years at the time and he had never acted that way to me before. It was the IdIoTTwins behind the scenes.)
30. Behaves as though people are objects to be used, manipulated, or exploited
31. Repeatedly has violated boundaries or rules, privacy, secrecy, or social decorum.
33. Seems to lack altruistic qualities – everything is done for a selfish purpose: rarely does anything for the good of others. (Even when they do good deeds, they get something substantial out of it even if it is profuse gratitude and someone they can in turn easily influence.)
37. Feels entitled to any one of these: success, fame, fortune, or sex, with no legal, moral, or ethical inhibitions.
38. At work, habitually competes with peers for attention or praise and devalues them to garner favor with those in authority.
39. When criticized, seems insecure and tends to lash out.
40. Has acted imperious at times, not wishing to know what others think, have planned, or are concerned about.
41. Has acted or believes self to be omnipotent, unwilling to realize her (his) own weaknesses or frailties.
And much, much more. I won’t go into all the detail. I think the book is very worthwhile, though. “Dangerous Personalities” by Joe Navarro. It is very validating to see someone who is an expert in dangerous criminal behavior describing almost exactly what I am dealing with…and what I think everyone is dealing with who is targeted. These is very serious corruption in the system with dangerous personalities driving it. It is more like a cult than real government.
This book is very clear that we must protect ourselves. Say “no” to these people as much as possible. Don’t give them a lot of attention or concessions. Get away from them if you are able.
Thanks for reading. Take care of yourself.